Just a Cloud Away, Inc. ™ Journal is our community paper addressing loss, healing, memorials and proactive living. Founded by a mother, whose stillborn son is an integral part of the family today.
They are looking to educate society by providing articles within the journal addressing questions below. The journey of loosing a baby or pregnancy is devastating; however, if one has not walked in these shoes, it is difficult to comprehend. Please contact Diana@justacloudaway.com with answers to these questions (you may remain anonymous). Feel free to comment directly onto this post as well.
- Have you experienced any signs from your child/children?
- What words or actions of others comforted you the most?
- How can people help you in the future to honor your child?
- How have you memorialized your baby/babies?
- How have you described your loss to other living siblings?
- When people ask, “How many children do you have?” what is your response?
- Has the loss of your child/children changed your spirituality?
- Men and woman grief differently, do you have any suggestions to help other couples understand these differences?
- How do you acknowledge the Angelversary (day child passed)
10. Would you be interested in attending a casual paper crafting workshop at the Emerald Event Center, on a Friday night from 5-11? The location is 2000 East Wendover Ave, where supplies are provided to create memorials. More information is provided at http://www.justacloudaway.com on various ways to remember and memorialize our angels.
Please help increase awareness of pregnancy and infant loss. If you are located in another state other than North Carolina, please note in your answers and thank you.
Peace …..Diana
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1. Yes I’ve experienced Laura lynne coming to me several times in dreams. She always tells me that she loves me. Even though she is a new born in my dreams. I always feel comforted after she comes to me.
2. The best way people have comforted me was by telling me that they are here for me any time I want to talk. Or just big hugs!
3. People can help remembering Laura Lynne by mentioning her or including her name on holiday cards.
4. Memorialize Laura Lynne- our mantel is covered in pics of her and angel/ fairy statues. We also take a candle that I decorated for Laura lynne to all family get togethers. And we have a pink angel bear that was given to us at her funeral that we include n family photos.
5. My son was 10 at the time and it was hard for him to understand. The first time he saw her, Laura Lynne was hooked up to all sorts of tubes and wires. The next time he saw her, we had her taken off life support. He thought she was getting better, because the tubes were gone. That had to be one of the hardest things to do was tell Nick that his baby sister wasn’t going to make it!
6. I tell everyone that I have 2 sons and an angel daughter!
7. This is probably the hardest question to answer. After 3 yrs I am still holding a lot of anger over my loss. Unfortunately, God takes the brunt of my anger.
8. My partner and I fell in love with each other all over again. We are here for each other!
9. Laura Lynne was born Oct 1, 2007 and passed Oct. 3, 2007. I take all 3 days off from work and spend that time with my other children and we visit the cemetery and put flowers and new fairy/ angel figurines on her area(grave).
10. I live in Indiana. We have a support group that meets once a month. Sometimes I wish we could meet more often.
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1. Yes I feel like the only reason why his little sister is here is because of him the same thing would have happened to her if i hadn’t gone to the hospital when I did and everytime i look at her face i see him.
2. Honestly I found it hard to hear what people had to say especially when they said God wanted it this way but after a couple of months i came to realize that they were just trying to help but the words that helped the most was when someone told me not to worry he’s here with me everyday maybe not physical but in spirit and in my heart and that he will still be there waiting when its time for me to join him.
3. By saying his name and remember his birthday and including him in holiday cards.
4. I go to his grave on his birthday and talk about him when im asked about my children especially now that i just had my daughter she looks just like him. And i keep pictures and the blankets he was held in.
5. Well their too young to understand but when my daughter was born i kept telling her that her brother was watching over her and how much she looked like him.
6. Well im still trying to figure this one out its only been 15months since i lost him and it just depends on the person askin i guess if its a complete stranger i just say my daughter is 7weeks and her brother would have been 15months or whatever age they are at the time.
7. In some ways yes before i never thought about whats on the other side or who’s looking down on me but now that i’ve lost my son im open to listening to others when they want to talk about religion or their spiritual beliefs.
8. Well unfortunately the loss of our son has caused us to separate but im not blaming our son its just we didnt know how to cope with the loss and it was hard for us to be around eachother because it was like a constant reminder of what happened and now we are in the middle of a divorce, we feel like we just dont work without him but we are really good friends.
9. We go visit him and talk to him and i pull out pictures of him and talk about him, its just a really emotional day.
10. I would be interested but i live in Arkansas, and im not aware of any places to go here.
It’s agonizing to lose a child. I lost my son Danny on July 1, 2008 to an overdose. He was 22. In dedication to him I formed The Prayer Registry for parents who have lost children.
This free website service is dedicated to all of the families who have lost children, whatever age that child was when they passed. This site registers the anniversary day of our children’s crossing. The members of this online community, the Prayer Team, have the opportunity to honor their child’s legacy and connect with other bereaved parents to participate in world-wide group prayer for every registered loved one on the anniversary day of their passing. To learn more see my website: http://www.sheriperl.com.
To register a child for prayer, email Sheri at theprayerregistry@gmail.com. I need only your child’s full name along with the date that he or she passed to ensure that your child receives prayer every year on the anniversary day of his or her passing.
1. No
2. Haven’t found any yet.
3. I don’t know
4. No, was deployed during the whole pregnancy. I missed everything.
5. first born
6. 1 or sometimes none
7. No, but it has changed my thinking, still think and act as a father would. Which I never did before the pregnancy.
8. The women is going to want to see and hear that you feel it too. I was in Afghanistan so my response was to shut off the outside world… even her. Home no longer existed to me. Only after returning have I been able to begin to grieve.
9. We haven’t.
Have you experienced any signs from your child/children? No, but I don’t believe in that which means even if I am wrong and it is true, I likely would have missed signs.
What words or actions of others comforted you the most? A FB conversation from my aunt to my mom showed me that they hurt too. And my family, especially husband, who made me eat and eventually force me out of my bed.
How can people help you in the future to honor your child? I like to talk about her. It is not a sore spot that should be tucked away, it’s ok to bring her up. She existed and she is loved.
How have you memorialized your baby/babies? My husband and I don’t have anything physical to remember her by so we wrote her letters and burned them. Those ashes symbolized her ashes and we placed them in our garden in a private ceremony. We consider that place her resting place.
How have you described your loss to other living siblings? They are to young now. They came after their sister.
When people ask, “How many children do you have?” what is your response? I only respond with my living children.
Has the loss of your child/children changed your spirituality? It strengthened it yes. I am atheist. But not in the bitter way that you may think. To me atheism is peaceful.
Men and woman grief differently, do you have any suggestions to help other couples understand these differences? Please be patient with your spouse, even if it doesn’t look like it, they hurt.
How do you acknowledge the Angelversary (day child passed)? We light a candle, the same one we lit during her ceremony.
Your little baby was just beautiful and brought tears to my eyes. I lost my 4 th at 19 weeks earlier this year. I documented what I was feeling between the day I found out he’d gone and the time I delivered to help others and especially their families going through the same thing. If you like I can send a copy
It was early morn in 1997 when I went to the loo and noticed I had started bleeding at the time I was 14 week pregnant with a girl she would have been my third child. I was scaried knowing this could be serious so called the doctor and got an emergancy appointment I went and doctor told me to go home and rest and ensure I elevate my legs and if the bleeding got heavy that she would make appointment for a scan at 5pm and I would have to go to the hospital. I went home and rasied my legs praying and begging for my baby to stay as the day went on the pain became worse all though this I was alone my parner was working but during the day I called him and my mum. The pain in my heart was so heavy when I cradled my hands on my bellie hoping to feel her but nothing the bleeding became very heavy and I Called hubbie to come home we found babysetters for my other children and left for the scan at the hospital all though this I knew my baby could live or have died its the what if she going to be ok or what do I do next if she’s gone. It had been nearly 6 hours since I saw the blood to being terrifide and lonley Evan though I my hubbie was with me the moment came and the doctor called us in he had the monitor turned away from us he placed the cold jelly on my bellie and proceeded to scan me I tried to look but he turned the moniter futher away from my sight then it hit me like a recking ball knocking down a building my hopes and dreams of my little girl being born was neaver she would be born to hevan. I begged the doctor to see her and as I gazed at her lifless heart beat I knew she had gone the qestions then hit me why has she died the doctor then said that there was abnormalities in her spine and that her head was much larger for a 14 week fetus then it hit me god took her as she would have been servirley disabled. They admitted me in orlder to have a DNC scurpe as we walked to the ward I was numb we were asked to wait in the day room unitl a bed was avillalbe by this time my family realled around us and began the wait for a bed at one point it had been an hour and hafe wait and I said to my mum I felt like she is being rippted from me and the bleeding became Evan heaver my mum demanded I have a bed thoughout the time on the ward there had been empty beds. This experance I had at the hospital it was horrendous and clical and cold I still miss my girl from time to time it has taken my 15 years to tell our and my baby girls story. I neaver got to hold her only god had that perivlliage but I know she watching over us love you baby girl mummy and loves and misses you still your still apart of all your brothers and sisters xxxxxx.