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The first “Quilt of Remembrance” for Just a Cloud Away, Inc. ™ Journal has been created. We thank all those who have contributed and supported the publication by remembering or honoring a loved one. The paper addresses human interest stories regarding love, loss, healing, hope, grief and memorials.

Many people upon the quilt are from places other than North Carolinians and will be mailed to family and friends wanting copies.

Angelversaries can also be acknowledged for bereaved parents of pregnancy loss. Miscarriages, stillbirths and babies who have passed of SIDS are very much-loved and remembered.

As a kind gesture, businesses can remember an employees loved one or a beloved pet.

The purchase of a quilt square can also be given as a sympathy gift.

The Quilt of Remembrance will be printed within each monthly issue. Please support your paper by remembering a special person who has touched your life.

Please contact us regarding potential stories, click here.

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Rabbi Dickstein has led the Conservative movement to establish new legal responses that carry with them the full authority of Jewish law. Here are the major points of this new practice:

1. In the case of a full-term pregnancy, when an infant dies for any reason, at any time after birth, its parents and other family members should be obligated for full bereavement practices, just as for any other child. The parents should recite Kaddish for 30 days and should observe yahrzeit. Young siblings have no oblig­ation to say Kaddish, and post-bar/bat mitzvah siblings should be encouraged to use the traditional rituals to work through the many feelings they have.

2. The body should be buried in accordance with Jewish practice. The funeral should follow standard practice with appropriate readings of comfort in place of a eulogy. Parents should be encouraged to attend the funeral, as should family and close friends. The funeral should be held as soon as possible, although if the mother wants to attend, burial may be delayed until she recovers enough physical strength following the delivery to attend.

3. If the infant was not named prior to death, it is usually given a name at the grave. The name may be the one the parents intended to use for their child (although this might be difficult for the surviving grandparents whose own parents may have been remembered with this name), or they might choose a name like Menahem or Nehamah, names that indicate a desire for “comfort.” There are two reasons for the naming: a) according to Jewish folk tradition, giving a name will enable parents to “find” their child in the world to come; and b) psychologists consider the prac­tice of naming to be an important help in healing the parents’ grief.

4.  If the information gathered from an autopsy can help determine the advisability of future pregnancies for the couple or of treatment of diseases to which other chil­dren of the couple might be susceptible, it should be allowed, even encouraged.

5. A complete shiva should be observed, beginning with the meal of consolation and including daily prayer services for the mourners. Communal participation in the shiva makes real this loss and overcomes the tremendous isolation the parents feel. If things had turned out differently, the community would have been there for visit­ing the baby and welcoming it with Jewish birth rituals. The family whose newborn dies should not be denied its community. It is also extremely important, especially for the father, to allow permission to do nothing else but mourn during the shiva period.

6. The father and the mother should be treated equally as mourners. Both parents will react differently to the loss, [but] it is partic­ularly important for the father to recognize his loss, for it is no less real than the mother’s. When the father is treated as a mourner, he is relieved of the burden of “being strong” for his wife. He has a specific set of ritual tasks to do that encourage him to confront the magnitude of his loss in all its dimensions.

7. In the case of infants born prematurely, there is still debate within the Law Committee on how to define “viability.” Some, including Rabbi Dickstein, argue that between five months and thirty weeks the decision concerning mourning might be made by the local rabbi and the parents.

Certainly, there may be those who feel the centuries-old practice of not mourning a neonatal death could be more comforting than engaging in the whole ritual of Jewish bereavement. But for those who desperately need a vehicle for grief, this recent ruling allowing for the mourning of newborns is indeed a welcome development.

Dr. Ron Wolfson is the Fingerhut Professor of Education at American Jewish University and the president of Synagogue 3000.

Jewish twist on parenting

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An energy reading and a very detailed interpretation of the reading were presented to me by Janet Nestor, holistic healer and author of Pathways to Wholeness.

Janet is a supporter of Just a Cloud Away, Inc. Journal offering articles not typically accepted by mainstream society. If you are willing to open your mind to the possibilities, please do consider speaking with her regarding your losses.

Because my son died at birth, any memorabilia, pictures, descriptions are very much welcomed. A few photographs were taken of him at birth, clipping of hair, ashes, foot and hand prints and it just isn’t enough for a mother. Below is an energy reading where Janet connected with my little angel on August 3rd, 2010.

Tanner, son of Diana Gardner-Williams

Tanner has a whole lot to say. His senses are all operational from the spirit realm. His is connected to spirit, his listening ears are wide open for communication. He has a lot to say about a lot of things.

The blue orb at the third eye…inner eye. He is like a magnet. He intuits everything and is able to process through the center better than any others. His vision is full spectrum vision. He sees everything on all at once….many levels of seeing and understanding and had the ability to communicate what he sees and understands.

Colors:

Peach-he is social. Likes to be part of the mix. Also patient and kind and you can feel his love and compassion without hardly trying. He is shadowy in structure, but when he communicates you can hear and communicate with him.

Light pink/lavender-He is vibrant. He has a lot to say/intuit/process. He likes where he lives and is exactly where he is supposed to be. This is his world. He is comfortable within his world. He knows his way around.

The light blue in his energy field-it is his level of permanence. He is ever-present in your life, will remain ever-present in your family life as long as this family exists. He is part of the family and enjoys his interactions. He has a sense of humor. He can pop in and out and does.

His spiritual body seems to be a thought form. He is light and airy. He has great wisdom, which he will share if you listen to what he has to say. It is not infant wisdom, but wisdom of spirit that is collective in nature. He really does not seem to be identified with his human body at all. He is identified with his spiritual being and that life.

Notice his eyes and the fact that they appear alert. They are alert. The line through his eyes is a boundary of sorts. Reflects his deep insights. He will not interfere in what is not his to see and hear. He stays back unless invited. He is not hesitant. But he is respectful of privacy and of his role. As a child one might have called him timid, but not silent. Shy, but not withdrawn. Funny, but not a clown and center of attention.

The only thing he misses is the ability to cuddle. He would have loved touch and still likes touch although it is not the same. He will snuggle in close to you if he can…almost feel like a part of you. You might notice when he is around because he likes to be so close. He would loved to be noticed in those moments, but he does not seek to be noticed.

He is both child energy and very wise energy all rolled up into one spiritual being. His identity in this life is one of infant child. His spirit identity is ages old. A lovely mix of innocence and aged wisdom.

I cannot thank you enough Janet. These words are precious to me and gives my being another purpose and understanding of my child. This is tangible and will be cherished upon my alter for him.

 

Just a Cloud Away, Inc. ™Journal thanks you for providing resources for our community.

Janet Nestor will be signing copies of her book on Friday January 14th at Chanel Lace Hair Gallery-2011. Beautiful wigs for women on a healing journey, click here for more information

More information on energy readings, click here

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I had the pleasure of meeting Anna and William Heroy of Old Photo Specialists while delivering Just a Cloud Away, Inc.™ Journals in Downtown Greensboro, North Carolina. The shop is absolutely beautiful and nostalgic with photos, each with a story gracing their walls.

 As a surprise, William offered to create a forever photograph of our stillborn son. My husband and I often replace Tanner’s photograph in his memory garden due to fading from the sun.

Many people are unaware of the product William offers in his studio. The photographs are reproduced on archival material resistant to fading and water. The photos can even be displayed without inserting into a glass frame. They would make a wonderful sympathy gift.

One of the 12 photographs we have of our little angel is so precious, I choose this one for William to work with. He did not re-touch Tanner’s picture, but now we will always have this picture and never have to reproduce it again.

William also printed a short poem found in Tanner’s scrapbook pages.

Pictures like this are priceless, thank you William.

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Just a Cloud Away, Inc.™ Journal’s Editorial Calendar is based on the Awareness Months, national or special days of remembrance, monthly flowers or gemstones and community events, fundraisers, and activities of the Piedmont Triad Area.

January

  • Garnet
  • Carnation, Snowdrop
  • Awareness Month- Cervical Cancer, Poison & Birth Defect Prevention, Blood Donor

February

  • Amethyst
  • Violet, Primrose
  • Awareness Month- Heart Disease, Bipolar Disorder, Eating Disorder, Heartworm (Pets)
  • 14th– Organ Donor Day

March

  • Aquamarine
  • Daffodil
  • Awareness Month-American Red Cross, Poison & Brain Injury

April

  • Diamond
  • Daisy, Sweet Pea
  • Awareness Month-STD, Alcohol, Organ Donor, Autism,Rabies (Pets),Parkinson’s
  • 22nd-Earth Day
  • 8th– D.A.R.E. Day

May

  • Emerald
  • Lily of the Valley, Hawthorn
  • Awareness Month- Stroke, Mental Health, ALS
  • 9th– Mothers Day
  • 31st– Memorial Day

June

  • Pearl, Moonstone or Alexandrite
  • Rose, Honeysuckle
  • Awareness Month- Skin, Prostrate Cancer, Safety
  • 7th– National Cancer Survivors Day
  • 20th– Fathers Day

July

  • Ruby
  • Larkspur, Water Lily
  • Awareness Month- UV, Solar , Cord Blood, International Group B Strep, Herbal/Prescription

August

  • Peridot
  • Poppy, Gladiolas
  • Awareness Month- Immunization, Breastfeeding
  • August 3rd-America’s Night Out Against Crime

September

  • Sapphire
  • Aster, Morning Glory
  • Prostrate, Ovarian and
    Childhood Cancer, Pain Awareness
  • 10th– World Suicide Prevention Day
  • 11th– 911

October

  • Opal or Tourmaline
  • Calendula, Cosmos
  • Awareness Month- Pregnancy & Infant Loss, SIDS, Breast Cancer, Fire Prevention, Bullying Prevention

November

  • Topaz or Citrine
  • Chrysanthemum
  • Awareness Month- Alzheimer, Caregiver, Lung Cancer, Long Term Care, Brain Aneurysm, Prematurity, Hospice, Adoption
  • 11th– Veteran’s Day
  • 18th-Great American Smoke out

December

  • Turquoise, Blue Topaz
  • Holly, Narcissus
  • Awareness Month- Drunk & Drugged Driving, AIDS, Seasonal Depression
  • 1st– World AIDS Day

Journals are located online, here on the blog and in print with over 300 locations. Contact us with additional awareness causes at, Diana@justacloudaway.com.

Just a Cloud Away, Inc.™ Journal is offering sponsorship of each monthly publication for a $200.00 donation.

Another way to support the continuation of the journal is our monthly “Quilt of Remembrance”. $25 to purchase a memorial ad to honor a loved one or pregnancy. Those wanting to honor a pet are also welcome to do so.

Memorial ads are 3 lines with 18 characters per line including spaces. Checks can be mailed to

Just a Cloud Away-PO Box 327 – Julian, NC 27283

If you think your story may help someone else, please contact us for an interview.

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The April issue of the Journal of Clinical Nursing has reported on a Swedish study where a 25 minute massage was offered for eight weeks to relatives who had lost a loved one to cancer. Participants ranged from 34 to 78 years of age and included widows, widowers, daughters and sisters. They were offered a choice of foot or hand massage and divided fairly evenly over what they chose. Only three of the participants had previous experience of soft tissue massage.

They reported that having a soothing massage helped provide much-needed consolation during an intense, stressful period of grieving. “Soft tissue massage is gentle, but firm” explains Dr Cronfalk, who carried out the research with colleagues from the Karolinska Institutet. “This activates touch receptors which then release oxytocin, a hormone known for its positive effects on well-being and relaxation. In this study the hand or foot massage was done with slow strokes, light pressure and circling movements using oil lightly scented with citrus or hawthorn.

The use of hawthorn and lemon as the oils is interesting as they would not naturally spring to mind first. Lemon oil is probably best known for its antiseptic and antimicrobial properties but it reputedly increases concentration and awareness and helps to eliminate emotional confusion, which would fit with the grieving process.

Positive Touch Triad had their ribbon cut by Angela Howard, health coach of the Piedmont Triad. Angela has lost over 210 pounds with Take Shape for Life! Her motto, “There is no 1 solution to weight loss.”

It was chilly but over 40 supporters attended.

Snacks and B-Skinney Coffee were offered for those at the ceremony.

Doctor Akihito Gido practices Chiropractic and Acupuncture Services right next door to Positive Touch Triad.

Just a Cloud Away, Inc™Journal highly recommends the products and services provided at Positive Touch Triad and wishes the best of luck in the new year. Take care of yourself first, especially those going through life transitions.

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Memorial Ad for Just a Cloud Away Inc. ™ Journal

1st patchwork Quilt of Remembrance will be published January 2011 within Just a Cloud Away Inc. ™ Journal, online at http://www.justacloudaway.com/journal.html and https://justacloud.wordpress.com.

In addition to remembering those who have instilled many wonderful memories, your donation enables the journal to be printed and distributed monthly. Please support your human interest paper regarding love, loss, healing and memorials…… a subject of great importance.

 To place a 1 ½   by 1 ½ inch full color memorial ad for a loved one

  • Please send a close up (digital headshot) of your loved one to Diana@justacloudaway.com
  • The name of your loved one (18 characters)
  • Choose-In Memory of or In Honor of
  • 18 characters (including spaces) for the third line to note dates, loving words, etc
  • $25.00 check mailed to Just a Cloud Away, Inc.™ Journal PO Box 327 Julian, NC 27283
  • How many months would you like your loved ones memorial ad to run
  • If you are outside the Piedmont Triad Area, please include your mailing address or that of the bereaved family to send journals
  • Please send all of the above by the 7th of the previous month the ad is to be published (Example-to run in January’s issue, submit information by the 7th of December)
  • If this is an early pregnancy loss, we will accept sonogram pictures or other significant photos in memory of your babies
  • The Quilt of Remembrance is also provided for pet owners

 

 

 We thank you for your supporting the journal. The first Quilt of Remembrance will be published in the January 2011 issue

Please contact Diana to share your story

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