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Rabbi Dickstein has led the Conservative movement to establish new legal responses that carry with them the full authority of Jewish law. Here are the major points of this new practice:

1. In the case of a full-term pregnancy, when an infant dies for any reason, at any time after birth, its parents and other family members should be obligated for full bereavement practices, just as for any other child. The parents should recite Kaddish for 30 days and should observe yahrzeit. Young siblings have no oblig­ation to say Kaddish, and post-bar/bat mitzvah siblings should be encouraged to use the traditional rituals to work through the many feelings they have.

2. The body should be buried in accordance with Jewish practice. The funeral should follow standard practice with appropriate readings of comfort in place of a eulogy. Parents should be encouraged to attend the funeral, as should family and close friends. The funeral should be held as soon as possible, although if the mother wants to attend, burial may be delayed until she recovers enough physical strength following the delivery to attend.

3. If the infant was not named prior to death, it is usually given a name at the grave. The name may be the one the parents intended to use for their child (although this might be difficult for the surviving grandparents whose own parents may have been remembered with this name), or they might choose a name like Menahem or Nehamah, names that indicate a desire for “comfort.” There are two reasons for the naming: a) according to Jewish folk tradition, giving a name will enable parents to “find” their child in the world to come; and b) psychologists consider the prac­tice of naming to be an important help in healing the parents’ grief.

4.  If the information gathered from an autopsy can help determine the advisability of future pregnancies for the couple or of treatment of diseases to which other chil­dren of the couple might be susceptible, it should be allowed, even encouraged.

5. A complete shiva should be observed, beginning with the meal of consolation and including daily prayer services for the mourners. Communal participation in the shiva makes real this loss and overcomes the tremendous isolation the parents feel. If things had turned out differently, the community would have been there for visit­ing the baby and welcoming it with Jewish birth rituals. The family whose newborn dies should not be denied its community. It is also extremely important, especially for the father, to allow permission to do nothing else but mourn during the shiva period.

6. The father and the mother should be treated equally as mourners. Both parents will react differently to the loss, [but] it is partic­ularly important for the father to recognize his loss, for it is no less real than the mother’s. When the father is treated as a mourner, he is relieved of the burden of “being strong” for his wife. He has a specific set of ritual tasks to do that encourage him to confront the magnitude of his loss in all its dimensions.

7. In the case of infants born prematurely, there is still debate within the Law Committee on how to define “viability.” Some, including Rabbi Dickstein, argue that between five months and thirty weeks the decision concerning mourning might be made by the local rabbi and the parents.

Certainly, there may be those who feel the centuries-old practice of not mourning a neonatal death could be more comforting than engaging in the whole ritual of Jewish bereavement. But for those who desperately need a vehicle for grief, this recent ruling allowing for the mourning of newborns is indeed a welcome development.

Dr. Ron Wolfson is the Fingerhut Professor of Education at American Jewish University and the president of Synagogue 3000.

Jewish twist on parenting

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Homeless Receive Care Packet from Stillborn Angel

A plastic bag full of crackers, juice and cookies lay on the back seat of my mother-in-law’s car. My 10 year old vehicle breaks down quite often, so my husband’s mother loaned me her zippy little car for a few days. I thought what a great idea, snacks and a beverage for when she’s stuck in traffic.

I forgot to inquire about the snacks; however, the subject came up in her bible study class days later. My mother-in-law’s friend stated that she was rather uncomfortable giving money to the homeless. Whatever the case, the vote was unanimous that we all had similar thoughts of uneasiness by giving just cash.

My mother-in-law packs up goodies for the homeless people standing at the intersection we pass daily, going into Greensboro. Juice boxes, granola bars, crackers, cookies and chips are placed into a see through plastic bag. Nothing in them will melt from our intense North Carolina heat.

I love the idea of helping out the less fortunate in this “out-of-the-box” manner. I decided to participate. It makes me feel good and I hope to add a little nourishment for someone less fortunate than myself. Giving back to the community in this fashion may touch the heart of a homeless person in a positive way. One never knows when they are making a memory, but it’s worth trying. I insert a little piece of paper with Tanner’s name in between the snacks. This act of kindness gives me the opportunity to write my stillborn angel’s name many, many times. Bereaved parents never forget their children. Larry Wayne McCraw was the recipient of the snack bag one rainy day.

Larry recently passed in a vehicular accident. Rest in Peace dear Larry.

Read our local blog regarding Greensboro’s homeless community, http://chosenfast.com

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I had the pleasure of meeting Anna and William Heroy of Old Photo Specialists while delivering Just a Cloud Away, Inc.™ Journals in Downtown Greensboro, North Carolina. The shop is absolutely beautiful and nostalgic with photos, each with a story gracing their walls.

 As a surprise, William offered to create a forever photograph of our stillborn son. My husband and I often replace Tanner’s photograph in his memory garden due to fading from the sun.

Many people are unaware of the product William offers in his studio. The photographs are reproduced on archival material resistant to fading and water. The photos can even be displayed without inserting into a glass frame. They would make a wonderful sympathy gift.

One of the 12 photographs we have of our little angel is so precious, I choose this one for William to work with. He did not re-touch Tanner’s picture, but now we will always have this picture and never have to reproduce it again.

William also printed a short poem found in Tanner’s scrapbook pages.

Pictures like this are priceless, thank you William.

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Just a Cloud Away, Inc.™ Journal’s Editorial Calendar is based on the Awareness Months, national or special days of remembrance, monthly flowers or gemstones and community events, fundraisers, and activities of the Piedmont Triad Area.

January

  • Garnet
  • Carnation, Snowdrop
  • Awareness Month- Cervical Cancer, Poison & Birth Defect Prevention, Blood Donor

February

  • Amethyst
  • Violet, Primrose
  • Awareness Month- Heart Disease, Bipolar Disorder, Eating Disorder, Heartworm (Pets)
  • 14th– Organ Donor Day

March

  • Aquamarine
  • Daffodil
  • Awareness Month-American Red Cross, Poison & Brain Injury

April

  • Diamond
  • Daisy, Sweet Pea
  • Awareness Month-STD, Alcohol, Organ Donor, Autism,Rabies (Pets),Parkinson’s
  • 22nd-Earth Day
  • 8th– D.A.R.E. Day

May

  • Emerald
  • Lily of the Valley, Hawthorn
  • Awareness Month- Stroke, Mental Health, ALS
  • 9th– Mothers Day
  • 31st– Memorial Day

June

  • Pearl, Moonstone or Alexandrite
  • Rose, Honeysuckle
  • Awareness Month- Skin, Prostrate Cancer, Safety
  • 7th– National Cancer Survivors Day
  • 20th– Fathers Day

July

  • Ruby
  • Larkspur, Water Lily
  • Awareness Month- UV, Solar , Cord Blood, International Group B Strep, Herbal/Prescription

August

  • Peridot
  • Poppy, Gladiolas
  • Awareness Month- Immunization, Breastfeeding
  • August 3rd-America’s Night Out Against Crime

September

  • Sapphire
  • Aster, Morning Glory
  • Prostrate, Ovarian and
    Childhood Cancer, Pain Awareness
  • 10th– World Suicide Prevention Day
  • 11th– 911

October

  • Opal or Tourmaline
  • Calendula, Cosmos
  • Awareness Month- Pregnancy & Infant Loss, SIDS, Breast Cancer, Fire Prevention, Bullying Prevention

November

  • Topaz or Citrine
  • Chrysanthemum
  • Awareness Month- Alzheimer, Caregiver, Lung Cancer, Long Term Care, Brain Aneurysm, Prematurity, Hospice, Adoption
  • 11th– Veteran’s Day
  • 18th-Great American Smoke out

December

  • Turquoise, Blue Topaz
  • Holly, Narcissus
  • Awareness Month- Drunk & Drugged Driving, AIDS, Seasonal Depression
  • 1st– World AIDS Day

Journals are located online, here on the blog and in print with over 300 locations. Contact us with additional awareness causes at, Diana@justacloudaway.com.

Just a Cloud Away, Inc.™ Journal is offering sponsorship of each monthly publication for a $200.00 donation.

Another way to support the continuation of the journal is our monthly “Quilt of Remembrance”. $25 to purchase a memorial ad to honor a loved one or pregnancy. Those wanting to honor a pet are also welcome to do so.

Memorial ads are 3 lines with 18 characters per line including spaces. Checks can be mailed to

Just a Cloud Away-PO Box 327 – Julian, NC 27283

If you think your story may help someone else, please contact us for an interview.

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Ignition Interlock Device and Drunk Driving

The installation of an ignition interlock device is utilized for those convicted of drunk driving in the state of North Carolina. Repeat offenders, those who blow .15 or higher on their breathalyzer test, as well as some repeat offenders are required to install an ignition interlock device on their car if they want to qualify for a DWI hardship license. An ignition interlock device is similar to a breathalyzer in that it measures a driver’s blood alcohol content (BAC). In order to your car to start, you must blow into the device first. The car will not start if your BAC registers at .02% or higher. You will be required to blow into the device periodically as your drive as well. If at anytime your BAC measures over .02%, your car will turn off.

This above information was forward to us by Sheriff BJ Barnes and our Chief Deputy County Attorney, is also found on The North Carolina’s General Assembly’s website page

Under North Carolina state law, you must pay for the installation of the ignition interlock device, as well as its monthly maintenance fee of approximately $160.00.

This is what happened to a gentleman named David Sherman, of the Browns Summit area in North Carolina, while taking an AFTERNOON bike ride.

A father, friend, and a son.

Will this law save lives?

Just a Cloud Away, Inc.™ Journal

Share your story of a loved one passed

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Memorial Ad for Just a Cloud Away Inc. ™ Journal

1st patchwork Quilt of Remembrance will be published January 2011 within Just a Cloud Away Inc. ™ Journal, online at http://www.justacloudaway.com/journal.html and https://justacloud.wordpress.com.

In addition to remembering those who have instilled many wonderful memories, your donation enables the journal to be printed and distributed monthly. Please support your human interest paper regarding love, loss, healing and memorials…… a subject of great importance.

 To place a 1 ½   by 1 ½ inch full color memorial ad for a loved one

  • Please send a close up (digital headshot) of your loved one to Diana@justacloudaway.com
  • The name of your loved one (18 characters)
  • Choose-In Memory of or In Honor of
  • 18 characters (including spaces) for the third line to note dates, loving words, etc
  • $25.00 check mailed to Just a Cloud Away, Inc.™ Journal PO Box 327 Julian, NC 27283
  • How many months would you like your loved ones memorial ad to run
  • If you are outside the Piedmont Triad Area, please include your mailing address or that of the bereaved family to send journals
  • Please send all of the above by the 7th of the previous month the ad is to be published (Example-to run in January’s issue, submit information by the 7th of December)
  • If this is an early pregnancy loss, we will accept sonogram pictures or other significant photos in memory of your babies
  • The Quilt of Remembrance is also provided for pet owners

 

 

 We thank you for your supporting the journal. The first Quilt of Remembrance will be published in the January 2011 issue

Please contact Diana to share your story

We Remember Them

 

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Just a Cloud Away, Inc.™ Journal is the first publication dealing with human interest stories.

What is a human interest story-Human interest journalism involves stories that people can relate to. Unlike in straight journalism, where it is hoped that journalists will remain objective, human interest stories may be more flexibly written. Sometimes details of a human interest story are so intense, that the journalist hardly needs to insert any editorial information.

Much of the local news is focused on presenting us with facts and statistics, which may admittedly get a little boring unless you have a keen interest in the subject. A human interest story is a feature story that discusses a person or people in an interactive and/or emotional way. It presents people and their problems, concerns, or achievements in a way that brings about interest or sympathy in the reader or viewer.

Just a Cloud Away Inc.™ Journal serves our community by acting as the voice (may be anonymous) to educate on the various problems, issues, healing journey or miracles experienced during or after a loss. We are the human interest publication to report your news.

Reality TV is so focused on the stupidity of actions, drama of the irrelevant or lives of the celebrities. Where are the programs to help us through the difficult times, the moments that change our lives forever, or our new paths without loved ones?

 

Talk shows may report or mention current issues and Doctor Phil may address one problem per show, but is this enough to make a difference, in our lives?

Read local stories of our community and how you can reach out and help. Monthly publications are free and throughout Greensboro and surrounding towns. We address all loss, loved ones, pregnancy or infants and even beloved pets.

Advertisers and those wanting to purchase a remembrance/tribute/ or sympathy gift ad are greatly appreciated and make this publication possible.

Warmly,

Just a Cloud Away, Inc.™ Journal

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