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Angelversary n. 1. is a word created by a bereaved parent denoting the annual date of a baby’s death, either early in pregnancy, stillbirth, or shortly after. This day is just as important to a bereaved parent as a birthday, and many are marking both birth and death on the same day. While “anniversary” might work, that often seems too celebratory a word for this kind of day. Angelversary is our answer to describing the most difficult day during the year.

 These are suggestions and ideas for Angelversary days.

Release balloons or butterflies

 ♥ In-name-of Gift -You can buy a star named after your child or give a financial contribution to a deserving charity

Visit child’s resting place – You can spend this day visiting your child’s gravesite, memory garden, site where you spread your child’s ashes, or any number of places that hold special meaning to your family and remind you of your child

Take baby someplace new – We believe your baby is with you in some spiritual way.  If you too believe this, you may like the idea of taking your baby someplace new each angelversary.  You can take pictures at that location and compose a scrapbook of all the places you visited in honor of your special angel baby

Send a letter to family and friends – Sharing the memory of your child can be especially important and healing.  One way to do this is to send a letter to your family and friends with special memories and thoughts you have of/for your child

 ♥ Adopt a pet – Pets are great healers and need your love. Perhaps now is the day you want to choose an addition to your family

 ♥ Living object – You can plant something in honor of your beloved child.  The choices of what to plant are quite plentiful and if you don’t have space at home you can plant in a community garden, pot or memorial garden.

 by Basil Augusta

Some information provided by www.alovingjourney.org and www.kotapress.com

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Greensboro and surrounding areas can enjoy a unique supplier of plant material, Terragen Nurseries, Inc.

They are located in Browns Summit. Just take 29 North to 150, make a left on 150, make a left on Summit Ave and you cannot miss Terragen Nurseries on the RIGHT.

You know I am a sucker for roses and they have plenty, even the double bloomers.

Knock out roses make excellent hedges

Yes, they have yellow knock out roses. They only require 6 hours of daylight.

These roses bloom from spring until frost with little maintenance. This is a perfect memory garden plant because of its hardiness.

Carolina jessamine vine to ramble over a fence, up a pergola, down a slope. This beauty is evergreen and the blooms are intoxicating in the spring.

Gorgous Grasses Too!!

Plumbago

This hot red mandavilla vine is the perfect choice for spanish style gardens or landscapes with other warm colors like; orange, coral, and yellow flowers.

Hibiscus

Tropical plants like agave are offered at the nursery

Don’t forget the ferns for your shade gardens. They are also suitable as foundation plantings (some are also evergreen). Ferns add great contrast because of their unique textures.

Terragen Nurseries offer many varieties of palm trees.

Plant material as a sympathy gift is appropriate for bereaved families. Terragen nursery offers trees, shrubs, vines, tropicals, perennials, annuals, and indoor plants.

Stop by and I guarantee you will not find customer service more pleasant and you will leave with your hands full of goodies.

Thank you to our newest advertiser, David Miller for contributing to Just a Cloud Away, Inc. ™ Journal

Peace

Diana

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Mothers Day is typically a joyous time where mothers are treated like queens by their children. What happens on this day when the children are deceased?

Mothers Day is different for some families.

What could have been, is not.

There are numerous books regarding pregnancy and infant loss from all perspectives. Unfortunately, most people reading them are only those directly affected. If others took some time to look over these resources, when or if a tragic event occurs, they may be the shoulder of comfort for the bereaved parents.

Definition of a mother: a female person, whose egg unites with a sperm, resulting in the conception of a child. Mothers Day is arduous for women who have lost their babies due to society’s view for a day of happiness and appreciation. Many women forego church due to the sadness of not having their child present and unsure whether to stand while being recognized by members. Mothers long for acknowledgement, even if in private.

Tracey Holyfield, founder of Heartstrings, suggests sending a thinking of you email, card, or phone call, recognizing her and her baby. Making donations to Heartstrings, Haven of Hope and Healing or March of Dimes in the child’s memory is another kind gesture.

Tracey purchased stackable rings for her deceased twins and other living children on her first mother’s day. Surviving the first year is twice as difficult because while mothers are grieving, communicating needs to family and friends is also necessary and exhausting.

It is a testimony of love by the numbers of families attending yearly pregnancy and infant loss events each year to remember the babies who briefly stayed.

Bereaved parents are able to compose a quilt square in remembrance of their children.

Some bereaved families will plan the day and exchange ideas with a spouse beforehand. This process may alleviate tension on an emotional day where feelings are easily hurt. Even if living children are present, the family is incomplete and mourning the baby.

Please think about all Mothers on Mothers Day

Peace Love and Hugs

Diana

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Pregnancy and infant loss leave little for parents to cradle, including tangible objects associated with their deceased baby. Early pregnancy losses are known to society as “Silent Grief” because of the misunderstanding of those who have not endured this tragic loss. Even before the positive pregnancy test, parents could hear the words, “Mommy and Daddy, I Love You.”

 

These babies will never be forgotten by the parents who have planned the glorious arrivals. Planting a tree memorial offers visual symbolic growth of their baby, angelversary recognition, and the various phases of healing. If bereaved parents are not in a permanent residence, certain trees will thrive in large transportable containers. The variety of tree differs for each baby due to season, angelversary, gender, birthstone color, and property limitations. Planting tree memorials are considered to be “Green”. Wood was not utilized for a casket, trees produce oxygen and absorb carbon dioxide in addition to lowering temperature, improving ecosystems and positively impacts mood.

 

In zone 7, Greensboro and the surrounding areas,  many trees will thrive including; Oak, Maple, Crape Myrtle, Magnolia, Carolina Silverbell, Japanese Snowbell, Smoketree, Redbud, Fringe Tree, Dogwood, Ash, Cherry, Zelkova and Plum. There are several factors to consider; blooming period, autumn color, mature size, shape of leaves, and more. Planting a strong tree resistant to insect and disease problems is desirable for a long and healthy life.

 A tree memorial sympathy gift can provide the family with new traditions including; yearly family pictures, picnics, decorations and a place for reflection.

Peace Love and Hugs

Diana

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Funeral and Memorial Flowers are so beautiful and add something special to the service. The various fragrance and colors provide and uplifting element honoring a loved one passed.

These arrangements can be preserved and displayed in a custom frame, ornament, or table top mount for friends and family members.

Gina’s Freeze Dried Flowers, LLC  has the equipment, expertise and passion for providing  flower keepsakes for those grieving the loss of a loved one. The custom floral preservation enables  family and friends to take home a precious memorial flower.

The sooner Gina receives the flowers (1-4 days after the service), the higher the success rate ensuring original color preservation. Leaves, berries and grasses within the bouquets can also be freeze dried. Gina will pick up the flowers if located in the Jamestown/High Point  area or individuals can drop off to Gina’s Workshop.

This type of memorial keepsake may be a thoughtful sympathy gift for bereaved parents of miscarried or stillborn babies. Pregnancy and infant loss leave parents with a very small number of tangible objects reminiscent of their babies.

Gina can customize your  flower arrangements with the appropriate background color and frames selected by the family. She can also add; obituaries, poems, prayer books, bible versus, pictures or any other keepsake memento within the flower bouquet.

Single flower ornaments are options  if several family members or friends would like a keepsake memento created from the funeral flowers.

Almost any flower can be freeze dried expect for coneflowers, daisies, and black-eyed susans.

The freeze dried flowers will last 75 years if the are not dropped, and not kept in rooms with high humidity and direct sunlight.

If you have a memory garden with several flowers you would like preserved, follow the instructions below.

  • Prune the flowers at an angle
  • Prune a rose within the middle stage, just after the bud has begun to open
  • Prune in early morning or late evening
  • Place in refrigerator, not a freezer (if your lettuce is frozen, the temperature is too low)
  • Do  not place the flowers by the blower

Wait 1 more day before pruning the rose below.

Because flowers from a memory garden are not in a professional bouquet, Gina will artfully arrange the blooms.

It is not uncommon for Gina to provide a keepsake for a bereaved family of pet loss.

The cost of Gina’s Freeze Dried Flowers start at $30.00 for an ornament and the process of drying is slow and often takes 2 to 3 months.

Thank you for offering the Piedmont Triad with this artistic method of preserving beautiful memorial bouquets.

Peace Love and Hugs

Diana

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If this subject doesn’t affect you, you are blessed. If a friend or family member looses a baby and you are aware of supportive resources, you may be their angel when most needed. No one ever dreams of loosing a baby, however, 1 out of 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage and 26,000 stillbirths occur in the USA every year.

If the parents have not named the baby, you may want to suggest thinking about this. Even if the loss was an early miscarriage, naming the baby will give them an identity and validation.

What do I do to help a friend who has lost a baby regarding the funeral or memorial service?

If you have not lost a child yourself, it may be very difficult to find the words to comfort them. There is a list found here to help  support your friend. Another list is available regarding, what not to say to bereaved parents.

Some funeral homes offer free memorial service for stillborn babies and give discounts for a funeral. Help them by making these necessary phones calls.

When the parents of the deceased baby have decided to have a funeral or memorial service, they may need additional help from you with the logistics. It is important to involve both parents as much as possible in the decision making. Even though this is a very sad time, this event will be remembered for a lifetime.

Areas of the funeral:

  • Notifying people of the service
  • Location
  • Music
  • Readings, Poems or Stories
  • If a priest or pastor will be present
  • Does the baby need to be baptised
  • Cremation or Burial (small caskets for later miscarried babies are available at Heaven’s Gain)
  • Burial Clothes
  • Container or urn for ashes
  • Headstone or marker
  • Obituary in paper
  • Would the family like flowers or encourage donations
  • Helping to assemble the altar with keepsakes and other memorabilia
  • Contacting Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep if  parents want professional pictures of the funeral and baby after declining at the hospital
  • Choosing an outfit for the baby
  • Donating organs

Remember that the scents of the season, colors, music on the radio, the landscape, the ambiance of the month will all attribute to the memories etched into the minds of the  parents, later triggering thoughts of  their baby.

Usually about the time of the service or funeral (2-5 days after the baby’s death) the mother’s milk will come in if she was further along in the pregnancy. The milk can be donated to save another child’s life. The program is The Breast Milk Project.

Wedding gowns can be donated to the Mary Madeline Project or Heavenly Angels in Need  to make burial gowns for babies that have died. Sewers are also in great need.

Some of the smallest burial gowns were made for 18-22 week old babies.

Here is the Triad, Busy Bee Crafters, a non-profit, volunteer their time sewing, knitting and crocheting. This group, led by Sandra Vernon and has been in place for over 20 years. Some of the garments created are: bereavement pocket or bereavement dress and blanket, and prayer shawls in pastel colors. 

These are some of the logistics family and friends can help organize for the bereaved parents of pregnancy loss or infant death. Having this knowledge could someday be the gift providing a grieving family direction and assistance in a time of devastating grief.

Please feel free to leave additional suggestions and comments.

Peace Love and Hugs

Diana

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It has been surveyed by the Humane Society of the U.S.A. that between 70-87% of pet owners consider their pet as a full fledged part of the family. The grief from loosing a pet is real pain and owners will walk through the healing process as if a family member has died.

Most people don’t understand how someone can grieve so heavily over a lost pet. Society is just not comfortable with death, and grief. And when you are talking about an animal, even if a beloved pet, they really don’t get it. Your grievous loss is easily dismissed in their minds (“Good grief, it’s just a cat”).

You have come to the right place for a sympathetic ear to your pet death grief. We understand how deep and loving the bond between man and animal can be, and how the grief when a pet dies can be just as profound as that felt when a human dies. 

Pet death…

Are you the friend of someone stricken by the loss of a much-loved pet? We provide some really thoughtful and caring ways for you to express your sympathy to your bereaved friend below. But keep in mind that you needn’t spend a lot of money to show your support. What your buddy needs right now more than anything is your understanding and sympathy. Do NOT belittle his or her right to grieve his lost pet. Do NOT urge him to get a replacement pet. Read on for a exploration on pet-loss bereavement and ways to lend support:

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Jennie is a prolific writer and has authored many articles published on the Internet, covering a wide range of self-help topics.

Jennie Wright, RN, RRT, GC-C

http://www.recover-from-grief.com

Thank you Jennie, for understanding how much we love our pets.

Peace Love and Hugs

Diana

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