When a loved one passes, the road to healing is usually a long and challenging one. When you feel the time is right, planting a memory garden can provide healing and remembrance as a tribute to a deceased loved one while providing you with a place in nature to feel a spiritual connection.
People generally send flowers and plants to funeral homes, which are symbolic of new life. Tending to your memory garden with water and care for its survival can direct your energy towards nurturing the garden. With your care, beautiful blooms and new life will emerge.
Since, healing comes from within, a memory garden allows you time to feel your environment and accept life’s natural progression within the comfort of your own property.People are often more depressed during the winter months, days are shorter and darkness seems eternal. This is the time that the earth needs to rest in order to produce an explosion of color, fragrance, and new life that comes with spring.
Here are some ideas to get you started
- Set aside uninterrupted time to think about your space
- Make a list of characteristics of your loved one
- Write down a list of plants, bags of soil, mulch along with any other pieces you would need for your garden
- Think about the focal point; a monument, a cross constructed from wood, a marker, or memorial boulder for your loved ones name and date.
- You can work on your garden at any time once you have some basic materials
- When do you want most of the plants to bloom? (at the time of your loved one’s passing to lift your spirits)
Location of the garden
· Sunny or Shady Spot
· Accessibility
· Exposure to the wind
· Will the garden be visible from your home?
· Can the garden be incorporated into existing landscape?
· How much time do you want to spend on maintenance?
· Do you want perennials or seasonal annuals?
· Could you relocate this garden to another house
Getting Started
· Clean the site of weeds and debris
· Bring in rich soil (Your plants will live longer and have a better chance of surviving drought).
· Planting should take place in the early Spring or Fall
· Mulch should be at 3” depth
· Water, water water (Make sure to water at a depth of 1” every third day until roots have been established)
Other options if you don’t have space for a garden, you can be creative and place plants on a deck, porch patio or balcony. Be creative and place plants in something other then a planter. Also, incorporating statuaries, memorabilia.
· pots
· cinderblocks
· bird bath
· bird house
· wagon
· kitchen pots and pans
· recycled boot
· watering can
· chair with the seat cut out for a planter
In honoring a baby:
· Consider a small garden that incorporates blue, pink or white flowers.
· Use flowers that produce small flower heads like forget-me-nots, baby’s breath or crocus bulbs.
· What was the theme of the nursery?
· What were the baby’s favorite songs?
· What were your dreams for him/her?
If honoring a golfer:
· Plant an area strictly of dwarf mondo grass, which represents golf green
· Create a sand trap using pea gravel
If honoring a music lover:
· Wind chimes
· Outdoor speakers
· Rain chimes
· When planting grasses, the movement of wind on the blades of grass create a beautiful sound
If honoring a spouse
· Plant a rose garden
· Incorporate a wood structure for a climbing rose
· Plant shrub roses at the base
· Tree roses and miniature roses could be planted in pots.
· The perimeter of the garden could be in the shape of a heart
In honoring a boater/fishermen
· In an area of your garden, which is wet, place an old rusty anchor as a focal point.
· Plant water loving plants like yellow flag iris, red twig dogwoods, bald cypress or weeping willow trees.
· Incorporate large bounders for seating.
Some plants have specific meanings
· Forget-me-nots- memories
· Rosemary- remembrance
· Oak Tree- liberty
· Daisies- innocence
· Lily- purity
· Allspice shrub- compassion
Some plants incorporate a word in their name.
· Royal star magnolias
· Star of Bethlehem bulbs
· Blue star ammonia
Planting Pointers
Remember not only are the blooms of ornamental value. Plants and their leaves have unique shapes, color and touch.
· Eastern redbud trees and sweetheart ivy are heart shaped
· Sweet gum trees are star-shaped
· Ginkgo trees are fan shaped
· Leaf-lambs ear have a very soft texture
· Rosemary is fine and soft
· Yucca plant is very coarse
· Burning bush, nandina, barberry and burgundy are red plants
· Maple trees are yellow fall colored
· Basil, rosemary and thyme have fragrance to the touch.
I hope these tips will point you in the right direction to start a garden of remembrance.
Peace Love and Hugs
Diana
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